What is counselling?

 

"How can talking about it help?"  This is a genuine question that some people do have. The first thing to say is that person-centred counselling (which I practice) is not about sympathy or telling you what to do.  It starts with listening.  By listening to you, I can begin to understand what issues you are facing.  Sometimes an issue can seem overwhelming and this in turn makes us feel that we are powerless.

So, my first job as your counsellor is to help you to see the situation as it is and then to suggest ways that you can deal with it.  Please note "suggest".  Counselling is all about empowering people - the choice always remains with you.  This realisation (which may take time to develop) can be all you need to take the power back.  Our issues often have a fair deal to do with self-esteem and it can be very hard for us to restore this on our own.

Remember also that we are speaking in a confidential, non-judgmental environment.  It can be hard to talk about some issues with family members, friends or colleagues for fear of what they might think or say.  You need have no such fear in counselling.

 Counselling can be helpful for areas such as depression, anxiety, phobias, relationships, sexuality, bereavement, identity issues, self-harm, addictions, abuse, bullying , to name but a few.

Some people find the clarity that they need after just one session whereas others prefer to have more sessions.  There is no right or wrong way but it is determined by you, on how beneficial you find them.